Empty nest syndrome? Here are 6 tips on how to reclaim your life – and still be there for the kids

“It’s a shock when children leave home,” says psychotherapist Toby Ingham (tobyingham.com). “Whatever stresses and complications have been part of living with your teenagers, when they leave for university, or for new adventures, it can leave you feeling somewhat bereft. You can try and prepare yourself for what’s coming, but the reality will only hit you when it happens.”

Irish Examiner
Wednesday, October 03, 2018

Dr Clare Bailey: Why hugs are good for you

I spoke to psychotherapist Toby Ingham who told me that embracing each other plays an important part in making, repairing and strengthening connections between us. He says, ‘When we are hugged we feel close and intimate, creating a feeling of warmth. There are a lot of people who get very few hugs and miss the feeling of being held.’

Dr Clare Bailey
You Magazine
December 16, 2018

Why sniffing your partner’s used clothing could make you happier

The smell – and clothes – of a loved one could have a powerfully calming effect. So claims a study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, which tested 96 women, who were asked to randomly smell one of three scents – a male partner’s, a stranger’s or a neutral scent.

“This sounds like it’s taking the idea of something old and borrowed to an extreme, that might be considered macabre, but perhaps for this woman it’s part of something constructive [a grieving process],” says psychotherapist Toby Ingham. 

Lucy Fry
The Guardian
Wednesday, October 24, 2018

Empty nest syndrome? Here are 6 tips on how to reclaim your life – and still be there for the kids

When your child secures a place at college, you want to burst with pride. It’s a great time for bonding, as you prepare them for moving away, living with strangers and looking after themselves. But once they’ve been gone for a couple of weeks, and your brain realises they’ve actually flown the nest and aren’t just on holiday, it can really stir emotions.

Suddenly, you have lots more pockets of time – which can be both a good and bad thing. It’s a time of major change, and that can be hard to get your head around.

Irish Examiner
Wednesday, October 03, 2018

Psychotherapist reveals the seven reasons partners cheat… from changing jobs to Peter Pan syndrome

For some people it can stem from past experiences but for others they could have the oddest excuses such as ‘Peter Pan Syndrome’

IT always ends in tears and it’s never okay, but there are a lot of different reasons for why people decide to be unfaithful.

Toby Ingham is a UKCP registered psychotherapist, member of The Guild of Psychotherapists and The Association of Psychotherapists, and he revealed to Fabulous what the main reasons for cheating are…

23rd August 2018

Love Island: why Alex’s ‘natural beauty’ ideal is problematic

If someone is self-conscious about their appearance or has specific insecurities concerning their skin, then the prevalence of “natural beauty ideals” could induce feelings of worry and stress.

“The idea that the ‘natural look’ is desired or preferable, particularly if someone has insecurities about their appearance, is likely to make them more anxious,” says Toby Ingham, a UKCP registered psychotherapist.

“The more we judge ourselves against some apparent natural look, the worse we may feel about ourselves.

“If you get too attached to an idea that your self-esteem depends on meeting someone else’s aesthetic taste it is easy to feel like a failure.”

Sabrina Barr
The Independent
24 July 2018

Body language experts reveal hidden ‘tension’

Psychologist Toby Ingham tells FEMAIL: ‘The individual pictures suggest that Victoria is holding on, and David is looking away and leaning away from her.

‘David’s body language appears to suggest tension. He looks tight across his shoulders as though he is withdrawing into himself and away from Victoria.

‘Victoria is embracing him, looking up into his face. She appears to be trying to get his attention. His attention appears to be elsewhere.’

Toby adds: ‘There is a sense of confusion, hurt and conflict in Victoria’s look. But when we watch the images as a moving sequence the story looks rather different. 

‘When we see the video as a moving film we get a better sense of the context of the situation. Instead of a set of individual pictures about a marriage in crisis, the film appears to show that the couple are enjoying and absorbed in the day’s events and being open about their affection for each other.’ 

Toby Ingham is a UKCP registered psychotherapist, member of The Guild of Psychotherapists and The Association of Psychotherapists

Unity Blott
Mail Online
5 July 2018

How to cope if your family is grieving on Father’s Day

Celebrating Father’s Day can be a difficult time for those who are grieving their loved ones but we have some top advice for the bereaved.

June 17th will be a tricky day for those who are missing their dad on Father’s Day but there are ways to help make the day just that little bit easier.

We spoke to psychotherapist and counsellor, Toby Ingham, about what parents can do to help support their children during a time of grief.

Heart Radio London
15 June 2018

Meghan Markle gushes about her husband Prince Harry

Psychotherapist Toby Ingham added that when they were sitting together at the opening of the new Mersey Gateway Bridge today, they seem to be very much at ease with each other.

“The body language of the Queen and Meghan is warm, friendly, they look to be enjoying the time they are spending together,” he said.

“There is formality to the occasion as they step from the train, but the overall tone is relaxed and warm.

“When sitting together they move in towards each other and enjoy a shared joke. The impression of spontaneity and warmth.”

Emma Costello
15 June 2018

The Worst Thing To Do With Anger Is Bottle It Up, So Here’s How To Flip Your Anger Positive

RSNG’s emotions expert, Toby Ingham, says that locking a lid on your anger is the wrong approach – here he reveals the ways you can engage with it, and funnel it into positive energy instead.

Toby Ingham & Matt Ray
The Rising Man
18 April 2018

Can you regulate psychotherapy?

The Government wants to regulate how psychotherapists do their job. Professionals fear it will make their work impossible.

Andrew Billen
The Times
15 July 2008