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We all carry within us a model of the world that is based upon all of the relationships we have ever had.  The people we loved in our early years, the kind of relationships we were able to develop with … Read More

Imagine you knew that later today your partner would be sleeping with someone else, someone you knew.  You could stop them.  But you decide that for the benefit of your marriage, and you and your wife’s sanity, you won’t.  You … Read More

Literally speaking, animus possession describes a situation in which a woman may have become dominated by the masculine aspects of her personality. Instead of our gendered personality being balanced it becomes stuck. Animus possession refers to a state in which … Read More

Are you struggling with feelings of rejection? The fear of rejection is a basic human anxiety. How secure our relationships are, how we develop a sense of belonging, these experiences are fundamental to knowing how we fit into our families … Read More

We all have to find a way to grow up.  People who have Peter Pan syndrome haven’t worked out how to.  Something in the process of the development of their personality and psychology has stalled or hasn’t been triggered, and … Read More

My mother always tells me to smile and put on a happy face. She told me I had a purpose… to bring laughter and joy to the world. Arthur Fleck How well do you know your shadow? Sometimes a person … Read More

The term disorganised attachment comes from Bowlby and Ainsworth’s work on attachment theory.  When we talk about attachment, we are referring to the affective bond, the quality of the emotional relationship that develops primarily out of a search for safety … Read More

There are so many different types and styles of counselling that it can be hard to know where to start, or how to make sense of all the different options, styles, counsellors and websites. Here are some ideas to keep … Read More

Good communication is central to developing strong relationships with partners, children and work colleagues.  The more we can understand the barriers to communication that we can unknowingly put between us and other people, the more we may be able to … Read More

Survivor guilt is a term that refers to a complex set of feelings that develop when someone has survived an event that has had serious consequences for others. By surviving the event the survivor feels they have done something wrong. … Read More