Internalised Oppression

Internalised oppression is the name given to the psychological condition in which an oppressed individual comes to view themselves with the same negative attitudes that their oppressors show to them.  Once the oppressive view has been internalised it can be … Read More

Frame of Mind

We might think of frame of mind as just another mood that we are in.  But what happens when our frame of mind takes over, dominates us and stops us being able to reflect on what we are doing? My … Read More

Disorganised Attachment

The term disorganised attachment comes from Bowlby and Ainsworth’s work on attachment theory.  When we talk about attachment, we are referring to the affective bond, the quality of the emotional relationship that develops primarily out of a search for safety … Read More

Moral Principles

Psychotherapy based on Freudian or Jungian ideas is not a moral exercise.  It is an attempt to understand the dynamics that shape our lives and the world we live in.  I developed the idea that my problems were my fault.  … Read More

Pornography and Depression

Pornography use can have a corrosive effect on both the user and on other people in the user’s life. Pornography like any addiction, isolates users. It is the isolation that can be very destructive. When I was younger a friend … Read More

Inner Demons

In Freudian psychoanalysis and object relations theories, healthy positive development sees us acquire a critical agency referred to as the superego. Optimally our superegos moderate us.  They keep us in check without exerting undue aggression on us. Growing up I … Read More

Why Can’t I cry?

Our emotional and psychological identities develop throughout our lives. But at some point, they can become fixed and we lose the fluid adaptability that we have in our earlier years. I don’t understand why I can’t cry. Even when my … Read More

Othello Syndrome

Othello Syndrome describes a type of delusion characterised by irrational jealousy. The delusion is based upon the idea that your partner is having an affair. The groundless, the idea takes hold and it can’t be shaken off. In Shakespeare’s play … Read More

How to manage retroactive jealousy

Retroactive jealousy is an obsessional problem. It sits under the umbrella of obsessive compulsive disorders (OCD). Commonly, people will identify that they have become caught up in an obsessive cycle before they recognise it as part of retroactive jealousy. The … Read More

Sexual Frustration

The development of our sexuality is complicated and sophisticated.  It develops as part of our physical development.  Sexual desire is an area of human need that probably develops behind food, water, housing, sleep and relating to others, but it is … Read More