Disorganised Attachment

“I have always struggled in relationships.  I tend to be attracted to people who aren’t good for me.  When I was younger I got involved with partners to get away from my home life. My home was really chaotic. I … Read More

Moral Principles

I developed the idea that my problems were my fault.  When things went wrong in my life, in my relationships, I started to think that it must be that there was something wrong with me. The only way I could … Read More

Inner Demons

Growing up I learned to be very careful around my father. On a good day he was a very nice man, but things could change very quickly, and when they did he became a different person. When he was feeling … Read More

Why Can’t I cry?

I don’t understand why I can’t cry. Even when my partner told me he was leaving I didn’t cry. I felt the sadness, I felt upset, I felt the lump at the back of my throat, but I couldn’t cry. … Read More

Othello Syndrome

I was going through a difficult time, my partner was working away for a few months and we were only seeing each other occasionally.  We knew it would be difficult but we were trying to save some money so we … Read More

How to manage retroactive jealousy

Retroactive jealousy is an obsessional problem. It sits under the umbrella of obsessive compulsive disorders (OCD). Commonly, people will identify that they have become caught up in an obsessive cycle before they recognise it as part of retroactive jealousy. The … Read More

Sexual Frustration

My girlfriends think I’m lucky having a husband who doesn’t want sex.  It’s become a kind of joke when we get together.  They don’t really understand why it bothers me, but it does.  When we first got together we had … Read More

Absent Father & Identity Issues

Near the end of Cormac McCarthy’s devastating novel, The Road (2006), the father and son duo who have traveled the post-apocalyptic landscape together, have to say goodbye to one another. The father is dying. The father tells the son ‘you … Read More

Cocaine Comedown

Bad cocaine stories tend to go in one direction: down There is a recognisable pattern that cocaine users go through, a negative spiral. As a user becomes more hooked on cocaine, as their addiction develops they go through various experiences. … Read More