Frame of Mind
We might think of frame of mind as just another mood that we are in. But what happens when our frame of mind takes over, dominates us and stops us being able to reflect on what we are doing? My … Read More
Disorganised Attachment
The term disorganised attachment comes from Bowlby and Ainsworth’s work on attachment theory. When we talk about attachment, we are referring to the affective bond, the quality of the emotional relationship that develops primarily out of a search for safety … Read More
Moral Principles
Psychotherapy based on Freudian or Jungian ideas is not a moral exercise. It is an attempt to understand the dynamics that shape our lives and the world we live in. I developed the idea that my problems were my fault. … Read More
Inner Demons
Inner demons might be thought of as negative recurring voices and messages that we repeatedly tell ourselves. They might be based on old situations and relationships that involved a high degree of criticism, self-doubt and negative type thought patterns and … Read More
Why Can’t I cry?
Our emotional and psychological identities develop throughout our lives. But at some point, they can become fixed and we lose the fluid adaptability that we have in our earlier years. I don’t understand why I can’t cry. Even when my … Read More
Othello Syndrome
Othello Syndrome describes a type of delusion characterised by irrational jealousy. The delusion is based upon the idea that your partner is having an affair. The groundless, the idea takes hold and it can’t be shaken off. In Shakespeare’s play … Read More
Sexual Frustration
The development of our sexuality is complicated and sophisticated. It develops as part of our physical development. Sexual desire is an area of human need that probably develops behind food, water, housing, sleep and relating to others, but it is … Read More
Cocaine Comedown
Bad cocaine stories tend to go in one direction: down There is a recognisable pattern that cocaine users go through, a negative spiral. As a user becomes more hooked on cocaine, as their addiction develops they go through various experiences. … Read More
Emotional Stability – Why You Need it
People whose childhoods were characterised by a lack of emotional stability sometimes develop problems regulating their own emotions. They may be quick to become anxious and instinctively pick up on signals that their environment is not safe, settled and stable. … Read More
Primary Socialisation and Psychotherapy
How old are our problems? Does thinking about our experience of primary socialisation help us find a way to live better? “I need help with my anxiety. I am getting really stressed about my relationship. I am worried about my … Read More