An emotional affair happens in an area of uncertainty. You become aware that you have become more than friends with someone other than your partner. There may be no physical or sexual interaction, but the connection is emotional, it involves … Read more
Erotic fantasy is a pattern of thought, or an idea or image, that stimulates someone’s sexual response or is sexually arousing. It is a necessary part of human biology and mental activity and response, without it human reproduction would be … Read more
A narcissistic wound describes both: the sense of disturbance in our sense of how we relate to ourselves, and, the sense of disturbance in our sense of how we relate to other people. While the word ‘narcissism’ has a disparaging … Read more
Object constancy refers to our ability to retain a stable relationship and emotional connection with another person, even when that relationship encounters problems. When things go wrong in your life or your relationships, do you take it in your stride, … Read more
Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), or body dysmorphia, is a mental health condition in which a person spends a lot of time worrying over problems in their appearance. These problems are often not recognised by other people. People of any age … Read more
Withdrawal describes a combination of psychological, physical, and emotional effects that are experienced by a person when they stop using pornography or try to break other addictive habits. In what we might think of as active addiction, the user turns … Read more
Reactive abuse is a term that describes coercive and abusive relationships in which an abuser provokes reactive displays of emotion from their victim and then exploits the reaction. Manipulation, control, shame and blame This kind of abusive pattern of relating … Read more
Developmental trauma is a consequence of traumatic experiences that occur during a child’s early years. The concept of developmental trauma is used as a way to think about the distress that the adult may have been exposed to in their … Read more
Intergenerational trauma and generational trauma are terms that are used to describe trauma that is passed down from one generation to the next. Each generation of the family may experience symptoms differently, but the experience can be traced back to … Read more
Growing up with a mother who wasn’t emotionally available may have complicated your relationship with your emotions. Our early experiences of emotional attunement play an important part in the subsequent regulation of our emotions. An emotionally absent mother may fail … Read more