Low Mood
I have had periods of low mood throughout my life. Growing up was hard, my parents separated, and my brother and I moved between them. We got to see them, but it was hard, it was hard on all of … Read More
Separation and Isolation
Sometimes I dream that I am playing a game of hide and seek. I have gone off to hide somewhere in a big house. I find a good place and then I sit really still and wait for someone to … Read More
Secure Base Model
The Secure Base model is intended to provide a positive framework within which therapeutic caregiving can be developed. The aim is to help people move towards greater security and to build resilience. It was developed by Gillian Schofield and Mary Beek … Read More
Clinical Supervision
Clinical supervision is an integral part of working and developing as a psychotherapist or counsellor. Supervision is built around the task of understanding more about another person, in this case, a client or patient. In clinical supervision, a representation of … Read More
Have You Got A Chip On Your Shoulder?
From The Iliad to Hamlet to The Count of Monte Cristo, revenge is an ancient human theme. You might get even like Edmund Dantes (The Count of Monte Cristo), but you might not. And you might waste a lot of … Read More
Object Relations Theory
We all carry within us a model of the world that is based upon all of the relationships we have ever had. The people we loved in our early years, the kind of relationships we were able to develop with … Read More
Having An Affair And Infidelity
Imagine you knew that later today your partner would be sleeping with someone else, someone you knew. You could stop them. But you decide that for the benefit of your marriage, and you and your wife’s sanity, you won’t. You … Read More
Animus Possession
Literally speaking, animus possession describes a situation in which a woman may have become dominated by the masculine aspects of her personality. Instead of our gendered personality being balanced it becomes stuck. Animus possession refers to a state in which … Read More
Dealing With Rejection
Are you struggling with feelings of rejection? The fear of rejection is a basic human anxiety. How secure our relationships are, how we develop a sense of belonging, these experiences are fundamental to knowing how we fit into our families … Read More
Peter Pan Syndrome
We all have to find a way to grow up. People who have Peter Pan syndrome haven’t worked out how to. Something in the process of the development of their personality and psychology has stalled or hasn’t been triggered, and … Read More