Expecting Too Much
What it would be like if you could stop expecting too much? If you could let things develop in their own way. My old girlfriend used to say I was too reactive. I couldn’t see it at the time, but … Read More
Countertransference
I am very sensitive to other people, to how they react to me. It’s like I have a 6th sense. I instinctively know what they think of me. I think it’s like my superpower. I pick up on things really … Read More
Wishful Thinking
If I am honest with myself, I think a lot of the time I am wishing for things to be better rather than finding a way of doing something that changes the way things go. I know I can get … Read More
Post Traumatic Growth
This post is a response to an article by Martin Seligman Building Resilience, which was originally published in the Harvard Business Review, April 2011. It seems ironic to me, that the testing ground of positive psychology became the US Army. … Read More
Uroboros and Personal Transformation
“The lockdown happening sent me into a tailspin. I had been working hard to get my café off the ground, healthy fresh food at affordable prices. There was nothing like it in my local town. We were starting to go … Read More
Separation and Isolation
Sometimes I dream that I am playing a game of hide and seek. I have gone off to hide somewhere in a big house. I find a good place and then I sit really still and wait for someone to … Read More
Secure Base Model
The Secure Base model is intended to provide a positive framework within which therapeutic caregiving can be developed. The aim is to help people move towards greater security and to build resilience. It was developed by Gillian Schofield and Mary Beek … Read More
Clinical Supervision
Clinical supervision is an integral part of working and developing as a psychotherapist or counsellor. Supervision is built around the task of understanding more about another person, in this case, a client or patient. In clinical supervision, a representation of … Read More
Have You Got A Chip On Your Shoulder?
From The Iliad to Hamlet to The Count of Monte Cristo, revenge is an ancient human theme. You might get even like Edmund Dantes (The Count of Monte Cristo), but you might not. And you might waste a lot of … Read More
Object Relations Theory
We all carry within us a model of the world that is based upon all of the relationships we have ever had. The people we loved in our early years, the kind of relationships we were able to develop with … Read More