Many of our emotional and psychological problems and conditions develop in response to issues we experienced in our very first relationships. As adults, we can find ourselves creating relationships that mirror and reflect the relationships we experienced when we were … Read More
In the last couple of years, I have had more enquiries about retroactive jealousy than any other subject. Jealousy has always been a complicated emotion. A certain amount of possessiveness is healthy, it is part of what helps us form … Read More
Adoption can create an experience of rupture at the earliest moments of an individual’s life. The physical bonds with the birth mother that have been developing through pregnancy come to a sudden end, and the experience of separation that the … Read More
Systemic therapy – we are all part of different social systems Systemic therapy is interested in the way you as an individual relate to, and are in relationship with other people. It does not view you as someone in isolation … Read More
An emotionally immature parent may fail to recognise their child for who they are. So being with the parent always involves a sense of disappointment, of not being seen, of not being enough. It can be draining to be with … Read More
My mother always tells me to smile and put on a happy face. She told me I had a purpose… to bring laughter and joy to the world. Arthur Fleck How well do you know your shadow? Sometimes a person … Read More
A people-pleaser is someone who has become stuck within a persona of helpfulness. They are unaware and unconscious that they are wearing a mask, that they are projecting an image of themselves as helpful while all the time, their true … Read More
Could these symptoms refer to you? Do you: struggle to recover from early or childhood traumas and injuries? feel your old wounds will not heal? fail to take care of your own needs? lack self control? have an enduring sense … Read More
Grief can be overpowering It can stop us in our tracks. Try to remember it is entirely natural to feel like this, you feel like this because you are in mourning. You will recover, you will adapt, it may take … Read More
Living with a fear of rejection A fear of rejection, be it to do with relationships or careers can hold us back. Rejection leaves us vulnerable and insecure. Fitting in and being part of the group is what has enabled us to … Read More