Author: Toby Ingham

Emotional permanence refers to our capacity to believe in the feelings of other people even when we are not with them.  For example, to know that your partner loves you even when you are not together.  For some of us, … Read more

Children who grow up without fathers may develop a particular sense of insecurity. This may become noticeable and effect both their self-worth, and their capacity to develop healthy mature psychological relationships.  How are men who grew up without fathers expected … Read more

Retroactive jealousy refers to an issue people have when they become fixated on their partner’s romantic and sexual past. Retroactive jealousy is an obsessive problem and can be understood as sitting under the umbrella of obsessive-compulsive disorders (RJ/OCD). I have … Read more

A toxic relationship is a relationship in which one partner shows signs of controlling, manipulative, or abusive behaviours. The lasting effects of a toxic relationship can be devastating. Toxic relationships develop over time. The changes may be gradual and subtle … Read more

You know sometimes I get these crazy ideas about things that may not really be there. Howard Hughes, The Aviator (2004) Do you suffer from unwelcome and intrusive thoughts? Do you feel guilty, or that you may have done things … Read more

The idea behind the anger iceberg is that the emotional responses that we see in other people are but the surface issues. The point to keep in mind is that there may be more going on than meets the eye. … Read more

Being able to manage and improve our emotional stability on an ongoing basis is a key aspect of maintaining good psychological health. However reactive we might be, we can learn to look after ourselves better, to be less prone to … Read more

Rebecca Syndrome is an alternative name for Retroactive Jealousy, and it describes the problem people have who have become fixated upon their partners’ previous partners. Rebecca Syndrome is an obsessional problem which is typically driven not by a problem in … Read more

Emotional stability is the bedrock of our psychological health, it means that we have space in our minds to reflect on our experiences and to think about things that happen to us without necessarily reacting to them. It means that … Read more

Jealousy often feeds on the idea that your current partner has had better, more intimate, and more satisfying relationships with their previous partners, and that they might still be thinking about them. Unchecked, it can destroy your relationship as you start to obsess about … Read more