It’s not that there’s something wrong with us, our problems relate to things that have happened to us. Remembering this can be life-changing.

Psychotherapy in Oxford and online

It can be difficult to understand psychological and emotional issues and problems, especially during difficult times.  My experience has shown me that;

  • most of the things that distress us can be understood if we can find the right place and time to discuss them  
  • even if you have suffered profound traumatic upsets, now or in the past, it is possible to improve the way you feel about them, and to improve the way you live

I am constantly updating the site to keep it relevant and informative.  There are blogs, videos and links to help you work out what you might want to do next.

I have 20 years experience of working with people, dealing with depression, low mood, anxiety states, trauma, bereavement, addictions and emotional instability.  Contact me to arrange a free telephone consultation. 

I am available via Signal, Zoom, and FaceTime or at my consulting room near Oxford. 

I look forward to hearing from you.


Toby Ingham


Toby Ingham

UKCP registered psychotherapist & supervisor, member of The Guild of Psychotherapists, The Association of Independent Psychotherapists, and BAPPS. Former Clinical Director of South Bucks Counselling (2019-2023). 

Before setting up my psychotherapy practice in Oxford, I trained in NHS at St Barts’ Hospital, and at the Homerton Hospital in London.  I am a former staff psychotherapist at Nightingale Hospital and trained at Promis Addiction Centre and Age Concern.

Short and long-term work is available online, or at my consulting room near Oxford.

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